To paraphrase the mesmerising Will Smith, as well as America’s
#1 Success Coach Jack Canfield – on the other side of fear…lies amazing opportunity.
In my 20’s, I was given the rare (we’re talking rainbow unicorn rare) opportunity to audition for breakfast radio in Melbourne. What an incredible door to have held open for you, even just a crack! Unfortunately, I completely and utterly tanked the audition. I was stilted, I was wooden, I was quite honestly paralysed by fear. Where did the sunny, happy, witty (even if I do say so myself) me go? Why on earth did she disappear on me, when I needed her most!?!
Why did I freeze? My
best guess, without becoming a frequent flyer at my local therapist’s office, is
that it was fear of failure. I got my
mind so caught up in the size of the opportunity and ‘what if I fail’ that I
fulfilled my own prophecy.
…and that is just one of the spectacular opportunities that I’ve missed, while I stood paralysed on the other side of fear.
Fear is like a wall, it’s the barrier between you and what you dare to dream. Like a prisoner seeing their family on the other side of an inch of plexi-glass – what you want is right there in front of you, but painfully out of reach.
To quote Tony Robbins, “Life is a dance between what you desire most and what you fear most.” When the desire for what’s on the other side of the wall outweighs the barrier in front of you, nothing will hold you back.
For so long I have dreamt of helping others conquer their fear of public speaking, but the fear of failure has always loomed large, and time and time again it’s made me slink back into the shadows.
Call it FOMO – but my desire has finally overcome my fear and I’m excited (and scared) to offer my thoughts, tactics and techniques to those who are holding themselves back from their dreams, because of their fear of public speaking.
You could say my FOMO has turned into FOOMO (fear of others missing out).
Now when the fears creep up and threaten to overtake me, I simply say “So What?” If it doesn’t turn out the way I dreamt it, so what? The possibility of failure is now nothing compared to the pain of not even trying.
In my Find Your Voice Workshop, we take a closer look at WHY you run away from the doors that open for you to share your story, your products and services…and give you the tools you need to climb the wall and discover the opportunities that lie on the other side of fear.
…it’s OK, not a single participant has died…yet.